this is pattern work.
For the patterns that keep showing up in your relationships, decisions and standards.
Understand the unconscious structure shaping how you think, what you tolerate and how you move through the world.
Not surface-level change. Not another temporary fix.
When the pattern becomes visible, you can change what happens next.
WHY PATTERNS REPEAT.
WHEN A PATTERN BECOMES CONSCIOUS
Patterns are not personality traits.
They are learned responses.
The brain builds efficiency through repetition.
Thoughts become familiar pathways. Emotional reactions become automatic sequences. Standards become unconscious defaults.
Over time, those internal patterns shape:
Who you are drawn to. What you tolerate. How you lead. How you over-function or over-compensate. The decisions you justify
And because they feel familiar, they feel true.
But familiarity is not identity. It is conditioning.
Once you can see the pattern, you have a choice in whether you continue to repeat it.
That is pattern work.
JOLENE RATHMILL
Founder of Grow Some Boundaries
I didn’t grow up planning to become a coach.
I grew up learning how to navigate people.
In an environment where emotions, tone and behaviour could shift quickly, I became highly attuned to subtle signals - the small changes in energy, expression and intention that most people miss.
What began as hyper-vigilance eventually became perception.
Long before I understood the language of psychology, I was instinctively observing patterns - noticing the behaviours people repeated and what sat beneath them.
Over time that instinctive awareness evolved into a structured understanding of behavioural dynamics, emotional patterns and decision making.
Today my work combines lived experience with years of coaching, personal development and formal training in NLP.
My professional background
Alongside my independent coaching practice, I also work as a Tony Robbins Results Coach, coaching clients internationally across leadership, relationships and personal development.
My work as a coach is also featured in the documentary Tony Robbins: UNLOCKED - The Coaching System Behind the Legend.
Over the years I have worked with a wide range of individuals - from entrepreneurs, senior leaders and business owners, alongside elite athletes, couples, families and teenagers.
My background spans coaching, NLP and personal development, including NLP training with Dr John Grinder. My work is also informed by leading thinking in trauma and human behaviour, including the work of Dr Gabor Mate.
work with jolene
Ready to understand what’s actually driving the patterns you keep repeating?
The first step is a Clarity Session. We’ll identify the pattern currently shaping your situation and explore whether working together is the right next step.